The Wedding Vows Starter Kit

Weddings are unforgettable in themselves but weddings vows, when written and delivered properly, just might take the cake. Imagine that moment when you hold the mic and every guest is expectantly waiting for you to profess how you feel about your amazing significant other and soon-to-be life partner. Telling your partner how much they mean to you and why you chose to spend the rest of your life with them might seem like a simple task, but with the overwhelming joy you are feeling, you might feel a little stuck at some point.

Here are a few tips I have learned

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to help you pick up the pace:

Step One: Discuss with Your Partner

You want to make sure that you and your loved one envision that particular moment the same way. So, talk about how you see your vows unfolding. Do you want to make it short, sweet and punchy, or do you prefer to go with a full-blown speech?

I have seen and heard pledges ranging from a full-page monologue to three-sentence declarations, and honestly, both of these are fine. Remember, your vows are not a performance but an opportunity to express your love in front of your significant other and your witnesses. This is why you should just be yourself and enjoy the moment.

If you are worried about the length of your vow, keep in mind that a minute at a minimum is best, but reaching the two-minute mark still works well.

Step Two: Decide on the Structure

After you agree on the length of your speech, you need to decide how you want to execute it. Check out this simple guide to jumpstart your writing:

  1. Set the Mood

    Before you go into the details, you want to give your witnesses some kind of context or a setting, very much like telling a story. Say something like “Before I met you…” or “The moment I met you…” to show the kind of impact your partner has on your life.

  2. Give Compliments

    Never fail to tell your significant other what you like about them. This way, you are declaring the positive qualities that make them special for you. You can start with something like, “You are kind, loving, courageous, quirky, and perfect for me in every way.”

  3. Express their Quirks

    In this part, you want to say why you love being with them. You can talk about the small things they do which you adore or give your speech a twist by having some fun with things about them you are not too fond of!

  4. Highlight Special Moments

    Every aspect of your relationship is special, but surely there are parts that strike you as extraordinary, like that day when they missed their stop on the train just so they can keep chatting with you.


  6. Talk About the Future

    Of course, your vow should cover what you want and see your future together to be. From hopes to commitments, including this in your speech makes it more solid, heartfelt and exciting.


Your wedding vow is a one-of-a-kind declaration of your dreams and promises to your partner. Now that you know how to execute your vow, you can start writing it and make it more compelling, clear and sincere.